That does not mean there should be no sweet soppy romance that makes you go weak at the knees or even makes you feel slightly nauseated if it isn't a relationship that is 50% you.
I am not in a relationship myself, that doesn't mean I don't like romance and I'm anti love. It just means that right now I am not with anyone for reasons that are not worth getting into.
Relationships also shouldn't be one sided. There is so many expectations for the guy to sweep the girl off her feet and be romantic while the girl just sits there and accepts it. Girls should also do things to make their partner feel special and loved. Relationships are about give and take not just all take.
Yes for us girls it would be nice to be spoiled with things, you see images of a guy buying a girl an entire outfit and leaving it out for her with a note to be ready at a certain time, or a boot full of gifts, but that doesn't mean that the girls shouldn't do things in return or just out of the blue not just because you feel you need to return the favour.
And romance isn't about buying things either. It is about doing things for each other. For example making a favourite meal or complimenting each other. Small things mean a lot. More often than not it's the small things that matter most. Yeah the big gestures are amazing as one off. But a compliment here and there can make a huge difference to your partners day. Or cooking their favourite meal and setting it out with candles or even just running a bath for your other half.
You also shouldn't expect things from your partner. Expectations of romance can kill a relationship. If you expect your partner to do something romantic for you and they don't it can cause serious problems in a relationship.
Men and women have different opinions of romance, while a female may see PDA as romantic, a male may see doing a small chore without being asked as a romantic act for their partner. People who expect romance may miss the small things their partner does for them that they may actually have considered romantic.
One thing that would never fail to brighten someone's day is a love letter. I don't mean a quick text or email I mean a hand written, pen on paper, folded neatly into an envelope type of love letter. One that your partner can hold in their hands. One where you can see the effort that went into writing down your feelings rather than a text.
People don't seem to write letters any more. It is all just done over technology. No proof of the real effort that went into writing down what you're thinking and feeling.
I'm not saying that receiving a nice text won't make someone's day. Just a simple text first thing when you wake up just saying "good morning" will brighten anyone's day. It shows that you thought about them when you woke up and that means a lot to people. A simple goodnight also shows that you thought about them just before you went to sleep. Sometimes the simple texts are the ones that show your feelings more. I'm not saying don't write down your feelings in a text. Writing how you feel for someone will put a smile on their face for sure. But a hand written love letter would be more appreciated.
Especially for those in long distance relationships. A text and phone call is essential for keeping the relationship alive, but a long hand written love letter that the other person receives through the door that they can physically hold would mean so much more.
Romance just doesn't seem to occur in the big gestures/hand written love letter way very often any more. So much so that films and books gesture to it. Which shows that it is becoming the normality of this generation. Films like Beastly among others.
I guess the point I'm trying to make is that you should love with all your heart, but more importantly, show it. You can tell someone a million times that you love them, but if you don't show it they won't believe it.
If you miss someone. Tell them. If you love someone. Tell them. Show them. If you don't you never know what you may miss out on. And there is no point in wondering what if and regretting the chances you didn't take. Take a risk. Love freely. Learn from your experiences. Learn from your mistakes. Improve with what you've learnt. And if that relationship doesn't work out, move on. Take your what you've learnt from your experiences to your new relationship and improve. Don't live in the past. Don't live in the future. Live in the here and now. If you don't you never know what may pass you by xx
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